tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post1141312450984271734..comments2024-03-22T05:45:28.281-07:00Comments on Departing the Text: NO! How to use "NO" to Help Them ShineMERYL JAFFE, PhD - parent, psychologist, teacher, author...http://www.blogger.com/profile/10310099341897509058noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-64670906635924431662011-04-25T15:37:18.475-07:002011-04-25T15:37:18.475-07:00You wanted a communicator, huh? I think that's...You wanted a communicator, huh? I think that's awesome. It would have been great to beam yourself anywhere you want to be. Cheers!Shanae Branhamhttp://www.disemblance.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-83594527248335507222011-04-24T19:34:18.969-07:002011-04-24T19:34:18.969-07:00Thanks for checking out my blog this weekend and t...Thanks for checking out my blog this weekend and the follow! I am returning the favor and look forward to reading more!! :) Hope you had a great weeekend!Atlantahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298537046528432944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-72057430031511896932011-04-24T08:14:37.205-07:002011-04-24T08:14:37.205-07:00Newest follower- getting caught up on my blog hopp...Newest follower- getting caught up on my blog hopping. Better later than never. Please return the favor and visit me too.<br />Cheers-<br />Mikey<br />www.mikey-thesinglemom.blogspot.com<br /><br />i like this post. i just realized i may say no too often- i do always offer and explanation though.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13214936478074363121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-12912296191770992962011-04-24T08:02:23.319-07:002011-04-24T08:02:23.319-07:00Television was not allowed in our home for a long ...Television was not allowed in our home for a long time, for good. its a bad habit for sure, esp for growing kids.<br /><br />the remaining post is very wise and full of good suggestions. thanks for sharing it.trishahttp://sharmishthabasu.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-12432661528363543462011-04-23T13:49:26.550-07:002011-04-23T13:49:26.550-07:00I agree! Thanks for stopping by! Enjoy your weeken...I agree! Thanks for stopping by! Enjoy your weekend!aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00257836584526109507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-8536713323349941642011-04-22T21:26:50.072-07:002011-04-22T21:26:50.072-07:00Found you through the blog hop. Great blog! I am n...Found you through the blog hop. Great blog! I am now following. Please stop by my blog Diaper Style Memoirs and follow back ;) Enter the awesome giveaway from SpiritHoods kids while you're there. <br /><br />Inessa <br />www.diaperstylememoirs.blogspot.comsashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05839538581347137897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-63513156191302655082011-04-22T17:55:54.290-07:002011-04-22T17:55:54.290-07:00I tried to limit the 'strictly no' to '...I tried to limit the 'strictly no' to 'important things'- but for minute issues, instead of 'no' I'd answer with what they could do instead... like instead 'No' to "Can I have a Cookie??"<br /> the answer might be: "yes, you can have a cookie after lunch."<br /><br />it took me awhile to figure out what you meant by 'No, wrong'- I usually let my boys figure out they are wrong on their own I guess- so I had trouble understanding what 'no. wrong' meant.<br /><br />thanks for visiting my blog and commenting<br /><br />http://kabersblog.blogspot.com/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14771682280188836517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-43968699423709784232011-04-22T16:59:31.959-07:002011-04-22T16:59:31.959-07:00Thank you for stopping by. Great post!Thank you for stopping by. Great post!Debra Gray-Elliotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13836657468924341727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-54343269414490750292011-04-22T12:10:05.157-07:002011-04-22T12:10:05.157-07:00wow, very interesting...thanks for sharing and for...wow, very interesting...thanks for sharing and for dropping by...great to be here.Dhemzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05775515982789825801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-19083169493065127302011-04-22T10:54:11.510-07:002011-04-22T10:54:11.510-07:00I still remember a science paper written by a stud...I still remember a science paper written by a student when I was student teaching with first graders (in the age of dinosaurs). We had been doing a unit on animals in preparation for a zoo field trip. He wrote, "Kangaroo babies are called joeys. Kangaroos love in Australia." (True. . . that's how kangaroo babies come into being, but wrong in the sense that his parents would have been mortified by the misspelling).Merihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07024443046207501650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-77674108528321933092011-04-21T17:08:49.630-07:002011-04-21T17:08:49.630-07:00I agree with you. My daughter learned early there...I agree with you. My daughter learned early there is no inherent logic in doing what the neighbors are doing just because they are doing it. I need proof that they know better! Ha. Good stuff.SandyCarlsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10752798823532580733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-69716118914470793432011-04-21T16:47:12.147-07:002011-04-21T16:47:12.147-07:00Great post! I totally agree with the message. Than...Great post! I totally agree with the message. Thanks for stopping by my blog!Shanae Branhamhttp://www.disemblance.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-61178584384135759232011-04-21T15:05:21.647-07:002011-04-21T15:05:21.647-07:00Interesting, good post.Interesting, good post.Steve Isaakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07162341357622058518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-49810364090752884742011-04-21T14:38:25.966-07:002011-04-21T14:38:25.966-07:00Great story, Ma'am!Great story, Ma'am!MERYL JAFFE, PhD - parent, psychologist, teacher, author...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10310099341897509058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-10556160347078064232011-04-21T13:05:32.367-07:002011-04-21T13:05:32.367-07:00My daughter is teaching my 2-year-old grandgirl to...My daughter is teaching my 2-year-old grandgirl to say Yes/No ma'am/sir. One night I said it was time to go to bed and she answered me very matter-of-factly with, "No Ma'am." I had to play along, so I said, "Yes Ma'am," and we traded ma'ams for a while. I won.<br /><br />No's have their place. Like when you say:<br />No, I'll never stop loving you!Lisahttp://www.peripheralperceptions.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-80125020256198415642011-04-21T12:40:06.062-07:002011-04-21T12:40:06.062-07:00Meryl,
As always, an insightful and informative po...Meryl,<br />As always, an insightful and informative post. I try to be aware of my "no's" and I absolutely agree with the avoidance of "no, you're wrong." I think my response most is, "really, are you sure? Think about it again..." or "That's an interesting way to see it. I see it like this." I'm not perfect, but the result from an attempt at this consistency has kept my kids inquisitive so far. One day at a time right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-45881863663512495612011-04-21T08:49:18.547-07:002011-04-21T08:49:18.547-07:00The television has been a topic of heated debate f...The television has been a topic of heated debate for decades now. A blessing and a curse. Here is my TT bit:<br />http://www.kimnelsonwrites.com/2011/04/21/unrelated/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12460881702249079009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-62331473591209813092011-04-21T06:38:36.131-07:002011-04-21T06:38:36.131-07:00This is a great post. I agree with using "no&...This is a great post. I agree with using "no" sparingly. My three year old responds best to positive affirming statements like "please use nice hands" instead of "no, don't push your brother." When I use "no" and "don't," it's almost as if he only hears what comes after and his behavior reflects that!mama to j and beanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13242975146692216066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-41944156662665002202011-04-21T05:15:16.444-07:002011-04-21T05:15:16.444-07:00That is a great idea. It also helps with social c...That is a great idea. It also helps with social cognition - learning to read non-verbal tones as well. Thanks.MERYL JAFFE, PhD - parent, psychologist, teacher, author...https://www.blogger.com/profile/10310099341897509058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-20403206979080982162011-04-21T00:26:27.535-07:002011-04-21T00:26:27.535-07:00I used to ask my classes to say 'no' with ...I used to ask my classes to say 'no' with different intonations - it made them think about the many meanings one little word can have.jabbloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12176958811589489979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-90879902449472973812011-04-20T21:55:46.571-07:002011-04-20T21:55:46.571-07:00Very educational post. my 9 yr old son doesn't...Very educational post. my 9 yr old son doesn't like to hear a "no" to his request..so whenever i say no it should be followed by explanation before he could react. lol<br /><br />Thanks for the ABC comment.kathttp://www.myplace-home-family.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-42592548524829421832011-04-20T21:28:37.791-07:002011-04-20T21:28:37.791-07:00Meryl, loved this post. If it's a public foru...Meryl, loved this post. If it's a public forum, like in church during a children's message, I will spare the child's feelings by saying, "Wow, I didn't think of that," or "That's a good idea. And I wonder..."<br /><br />Sometimes "no" is needed. Safety, as you mentioned, is when it's needed most. Although I find our generation generally didn't say "no" enough, when my daughter wanted something expensive and I was low on funds, I'd usually say, "Well, maybe another day, we'll have to see." She understood. Amy<br />http://sharplittlepencil.wordpress.com/2011/04/20/laptopia-ode-to-starbucks-haiku/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-77963005648068275432011-04-20T20:07:23.318-07:002011-04-20T20:07:23.318-07:00another great post. Where were you when my guys we...another great post. Where were you when my guys were growing up? All kidding aside, I feel 'no' is needed for very young mostly in safety issues and in the child that may have a disability that will not stop a dangerous activity by gentle or stern actions. some times physically moving the child away from the danger may help, but curiosity can be hard to stop. and if too young to understand why or not being able to, a strong no may work. I loved the Einstein analogy too. ~Faythe~Faythehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16034410853774096838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-11259614633458128952011-04-20T15:28:11.690-07:002011-04-20T15:28:11.690-07:00I love how you responded to the child with the Ein...I love how you responded to the child with the Einstein answer! Nice one. I need to work on using my "no" less often. <br /><br />http://myadventures-in-mommyland.blogspot.com(Single)Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15137433181416707551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1535525493775623042.post-14870355260633080212011-04-20T07:02:15.134-07:002011-04-20T07:02:15.134-07:00Good post. I agree that no should be used sparingl...Good post. I agree that no should be used sparingly.Carverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05968919406427737503noreply@blogger.com